Dad's Guide to Sibling Rivalry

In every household that has more than one child, sooner or later (or frequently) there are arguments and rivalries between siblings. While sibling rivalry is very common and prevalent in the normal life of children with siblings, there are ways to make it a productive and educational experience that helps your child grow into a better person.

Below is a guide to help you handle sibling rivalry.

Teach them to resolve their rivalry in ways that end respectfully and non-violently. As a father, you can show them that compromise and communication are keys to help them both reach an agreeable solution to their problems. Then they will know there are alternatives to fighting.

Set some rules that handle arguments between them. For instance, no name calling, no tattling on one another and no physical aggressions are to be tolerated in the course of an argument between the siblings.

It’s equally important that you punish the kids if they disobey these rules. They should understand that rules must be followed or there will be a price to pay for breaking those rules and disrespecting their sibling.

Knowing the personalities of your kids is also important if you have a child that is easily frustrated and irritated. Perhaps it’s best to avoid putting the children in situations where the rivalry can occur. Avoiding the chance for your kids to start fighting can go along way toward keeping the peace.

In the event that frequent arguments occur, perhaps it’s best to not get involved at all. Tell them that when solving the argument you will not be part of their dispute. This is not to say that you should also ignore them breaking the previously set rules you laid down, merely, that you will not side one way or another to help them solve their problem.

Attempt to be a good example. Show your children the good behavior that you wish for them to imitate. If you have a tendency to argue and fight with your wife, or are quick to yell and argue with others, understand that your kids will take your lead in situations that frustrate them. Curb your angers, and show your kids there are other ways to resolve disputes.

Finally, keep in mind that these fights can be stressful and emotionally engaging and the toll on your as well as their minds can be hard. Try not to get overly emotional and frustrated. Keeping your head and handling this situation is important toward being a good role model for your children when teaching them to dispute their rivalries in a mature and calm way.